This is it: this is your sign. You’re brand new, refreshed, empowered to change. Your calmer, softer times are coming. Your confidence, your happiness, your bliss, is arriving. Self acceptance is easier, and taking care of yourself is no longer a chore, but something you look forward to. You start to feel replenished – you’re *you* again – and the next chapter of your happier life begins now.
ok u know what, no more of those depressing bpd memes, lets make recovery memes a thing, here i’ll start
an inconvenience: happens my malfunctioning brain: time to die i guess me, using DBT skills i’ve learned in group therapy: it’s okay, i can work my way around this, i am a Capable Adult
my mom: harshly criticizes me my shitbrain: oh no im a failure as a human being me, forcing myself to change the way i react to Bad Things: no, i am a complex human being and a good person, my mother’s opinion of me is not the end-all be-all
my brain as i am waking up in the morning: god i wish i were dead me, tackling this thought like an NFL player during the superbowl: today will be a good day and i am glad that i have lived to see it!!
sometimes I see posts around tumblr about mental illness basically justifying shitty behavior as something ND people can’t help and thus should be accepted/go uncontested, which is not only fucked up but dehumanizing to people with ND I have to say
a good phrase in order to take action to change habits and also assuage the guilt and shame that comes with ND is ‘while it is not my fault, it is my responsibility’
my therapist taught me this phrase and I find it very relevant to restoring my power and seeing my actions not as inevitable and my choices as nonexistent, but as something I can’t always help, but can always do something about
the ability to feel like you have freedom of choice and personal agency is key to recovery and tumblr saying that these don’t exist within ND people is very harmful and hurts not only our healthy coping tools but dehumanizes us by saying we are helpless to our own biology in all circumstances
yes, our actions can be limited, but they are still ours, and if ‘with great power comes great responsibility’ holds true it means that we too still have power to shape our own future, lives, and selves
Being a good person is a choice. Don’t let people fool you into believing that truly good people never have bad thoughts, are never tempted by the easier path, by the low road, never mess up or act out selfishly. Never believe a person can be good without making a conscious effort.
Every single time you do something good, you’ve made a decision to make the world a little brighter.
Goodness is not an inherent trait, it is a choice. Keep making it! I see you, I’m proud of you, and I’m rooting for you!