a lot of you all were never taught to think critically about your own actions, nor how to separate your behaviors from your core personality, and end up trying to play Johnnie Cochran and justify the very shitty things that you do, which is just sad and telling. don’t be afraid to hurt your own fucking feelings if it’ll make you better in the long run.
That’s a word.
It took me awhile to get to the point where I could look at myself and be like, “you fucked up.” And then sit there and interrogate why I had done something shitty, what was going on within me to make me think it had been okay, and do the hard work of working to be the type of person who wouldn’t do that shit a-fucking-gain.
Ain’t nothing wrong with looking at yourself and being like, “you were not a good person today/that week/that year.”
I’m better for it and my personal relationships are way better because of it.